Problems with g/f

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well, i see that a lot of the members are getting into relationships lately and asking for advice.

im actually just not having a good week thanks to college and recovering from being sick for over a week.

anyhow, wat problems do you guys have with your significant others? or wat is that one thing u would change of them?

as far as my g/f goes, i would really love to get rid of her vanity. shes a gorgous person.... but she can be so vane at times. im the type of person that rarely feels offended. i usually just sit down and lay back and watch ppl screw up just so i can get up and say, "i told ya so".

anyhow, since the beginning, ive known that she is the spoiled type of young person, whereas i was taught to always be thankful for everything i get, big or small. she wants to force me to dress up in the way she sees fit if we go out to a party or something with her friends tagging along. i dont mind dressing up, even though i dont really enjoy parties that much. yet, it actually made me feel really bad that i had been watching tv lately and checking out the nice styles actors wear and checking out the stores she likes at the mall.

i checked out even the clothes i see her friends wear, and some i actually liked. GAP jeans (dont know why they are so important), but i didnt mind them. followed with some button up shirts and maybe a suit or 2. when i told her this, she said it wasnt good enough. even the armani shirts i liked werent good enough for her, even though thats her favorite brand. so her friends look good dressed up in over $200 worth of clothing, but i cant dress up the same cuz its not good enough. im not willing to completely change my style (blue jeans, t-shirt, and BK boots) for her, but im willing to dress up nice every now and then just to make her smile. still, i felt offended and angry that even if i did try my best, it wasnt even close to good enough for her.

so yea, vanity is a damn mortal sin, and i wish she would stop it.

i actually feel a bit better now.....

so, what are you guys' problems with your loved ones?

posted by  Inygknok

Mine has to open of a mouth lol She loves to yell at people all the time and be loud.

Also she takes me to gap, american eagle, etc and tells me she should pick out outfits for me so i can look better. Im happy wearing my kaki's from jcpennys and my polo shirts and t-shirts from pacsun.

I don't mind it all that much b/c she is amazing it jsut bothers me sometimes

posted by  GonnaDie4TheGov


posted by  SyntheticTrust

No real problems with mine yet, although she can be insanely hyper sometimes. I don't really mind that. :laughing: But then I haven't known her that long.

posted by  hondaman

lol. ive known mine for over a year.... 10 months together 2 days ago.

anniversary on christmas. at least she told me she didnt want something expensive for our anniversary, just a bunch of stuff from Hot Topic.

posted by  Inygknok

Ask your parents about this song:

If You Wanna Be Happy
Jimmy Soul

If you wanna be happy
For the rest of your life,
Never make a pretty woman your wife,
So from my personal point of view,
Get an ugly girl to marry you.

A pretty woman makes her husband look small
And very often causes his downfall.
As soon as he marries her
Then she starts to do
The things that will break his heart.
But if you make an ugly woman your wife,
You'll be happy for the rest of your life,
An ugly woman cooks her meals on time,
She'll always give you peace of mind.

Don't let your friends say
You have no taste,
Go ahead and marry anyway,
Though her face is ugly,
Her eyes don't match,
Take it from me she's a better catch.

Say man.
Hey baby.
Saw your wife the other day.
Yeah, she's ugly.
Yeah, she's ugly but she sure can cook.
Yeah?. Okay.

posted by  Wally

Sorry to bust in on this thread boys but I have a few concerns. I have dated my share people and not once did I ever even think about changing how they looked, it was who they were. When you go into a relationship isnt it because you like the person the way they are, not because you can better their anything. I am sure that all of you look fantastic the way you are. You shouldnt feel obligated to change who you are.

posted by  suckaformuscle

^^^ she's pr0.... but anyway make sure you get a girl with small hands so it makes your penis look bigger...thats the only advice, the only problem i have with g/f's is nothing in common, and dumber than toast and usually sooo materialistic, then once im with the girl of my dreams....i figure the grass is greener on the otherside and everyone gets hurt so now im set on dieing old and lonely, maybe i'll get a parrot so i can be that creepy guy who only talks to the bird on his shoulder, soulmates are for suckas....thats what i'll say, until maybe i find "the one" but highly unlikely :banghead:

posted by  BanffAutoSpa_ap

I think every woman can agree with me on this just don't listen. I think that has to be my biggest complaint with my man. Think I should beat him over the head? :laughing:

posted by  97Talonchik

Can't say that my guy never listens, in fact he is one of the best listeners. He is also a sweet heart. But I must say that sometimes he is a little clueless. Oh and the best part is that he is a well of knowledge when it comes to cars. But yeah, a lot of guys dont listen or they listen they just dont get what the f*** we are talking about.

posted by  suckaformuscle

That's because you guys talk either using big words past our vocabulary, and it gets confusing when you say, "Betty's cousin's friend's uncle's grandfather's cousin twice removed shared a taxi cab with a guy who knows Gene Simmons's uncle on his mother's side" :laughing: :doh:

posted by  chris_knows

HUAH! so true chris, so true. ...sadly.

posted by  dodgerforlife

Aah.... women. Tied for my first favorite subject (guess the other...).

My problem with my recent significant others... they always want to marry me, just that thought stresses me out. They want to move in, or talk long term about our relationship, or change where they're going to finish college so they can be closer to me, or... Lots of clingy stuff. Give me some space, I do the same. We both have individual lives, I enjoy them overlapping when we can, when I am established probably own a house and feel my career is where I'd like it to be... I'll consider that whole long term thing.

Just about every girl I've steadily dated has been a real sweetheart. Keep those communication lines open and things can go rather well. I just get to a point where I no longer wish to be in the relationship... often caused by the above reasons...

posted by  Bino

It does work both ways, my ex was way clingy. Wanted to get married and have kids. Yada yada, all that bulls***. Even thought I was prego for a bit there and when I found out that I wasnt I decided that the relationship was too much for me to handle. He even to this day wont leave me alone and he is three provinces away. I asked him nicely to leave me alone, I asked him...not so nicely. I dont know what to do anymore. He even knows that I have a new bf now. He gets people to tell me things on msn. He even calls my family. The only other thing I can think of doing is calling the cops. They can put a restraining order thingy on him, its different then the actual one. It is so that he cannot contact me. I think it would work after they read the email where he told me to choke on a bottle of tylenol and die. So, I know about clingy. Hey, any ideas on how to get rid of the guy without involving the law?

posted by  suckaformuscle

Yeah call an escort agency and have one of their looker transgender girls pop around to his house for a visit. Also get them to have a photographer snap off a few roles of film when they are getting down and ugly.

Send your mutual friends the snaps anonymously and wait for them to tell you. The shame .... :mrgreen:

posted by  Wally

we men do listen. you women just say we dont cuz you can never be wrong. do u have any idea how hard it is to get my g/f to admit she's wrong and accept it?

just a few weeks ago, she and i and her blonde friend were having the dumbest discussion ever. we were discussing about where West and East were (West being to the left, and vice versa). they actually dared to tell me i was wrong, and my g/f got extremely mad. she resorted to taking out a compass and saying that she was right and i was wrong (discussion was over the phone). i tried reminding her about the wild west being in texas, which is to the left of USA, and she kept going!!! and her dumbass blonde friend even listened to her!!

at the end, i got them to get an atlas and i got one too. they saw they were wrong and they immediatly changed the subject. they even called me an ass ffs!

to top it off, i spent a whole week asking all of my friends where they thought East and West were, and none of them could even give me a straight answer.

women are just too proud with this ever growing femenism and belief of the all mighty uterus....

posted by  Inygknok

Not all of us are. I'll admit I'm wrong more than I'm right.

posted by  SyntheticTrust

I do admit that I dont like being wrong but honestly who does? But when I am wrong I admit it. I am not saying that all guys dont listen, a lot of guys do listen but there are those out there that dont.

posted by  suckaformuscle

Honestly, it's a lot easier to just forego the whole right/wrong thing. When I'm with a girl... I've accepted that I'm always going to be wrong. Because really, who cares. It's never about anything important anyway and I hate drama like I dread the gates of hell. To me, it's worthwile to just blow off the whole right/wrong arguement.

posted by  Bino

I agree. I'll admit I'm wrong if that will avoid an unecessarily large argument and get me back in good graces. :2cents:

posted by  hondaman

OK most of you are guys so you know what guys minds are like. I havent been texted or called all day. And my calls and texts weren't returned last night. What's going on?

posted by  SyntheticTrust

Some of us just never have them on or leave them in the car. :2cents:

posted by  hondaman

I really hope that's the case. I have a big end of the year show tomorrow and I don't need any more stress.

posted by  SyntheticTrust

Good luck with the show. Hope all goes well.

posted by  suckaformuscle

Well how much of an obligation is there? You guys aren't dating yet there is something there... to some guys that qualifies as not high on the priority list...

posted by  Pythias

With the exception of one day and obviously today as well, for the past two months we've seen each other everyday, hung out every night, ect.. And just all of a sudden last night I texted him when I got off work. His friend Brandon (Who is a JACKASS to me) calls and leaves me a voicemail. I've called Jeromy 3 times today and nothing. No texts either and thats really unlike him. I dont know what I did wrong. :(

posted by  SyntheticTrust

Thanks, I'm competing against the adults this year and going for Highpoint. Big competition, horses and I are leaving at 8:30. Wish us luck.

posted by  SyntheticTrust

I wish you all the luck in the world. I have competed before and I know how stressing it can be. You will do great, all you need is faith in yourself and the animal beneath you. Trust in both of you and all will go well. Let me know how you do.

posted by  suckaformuscle

Who knows might be nothing, might just be something came up... Although thats unlikely its a hope to cling on...

posted by  Pythias

I'll cling on it.. I just wish this didn't have to happen the night before my big day ya know?

posted by  SyntheticTrust

True I totally understand that, regardless of that though I'm sure you'll do great. Good Luck :thumbs:

posted by  Pythias

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